Objectification [NSFW]

Here at theBigGayBlog, we frequently celebrate the male form. People sometimes complain about the objectification of women and men too. They probably think this blog is guilty of promoting objectification. We offer no apologies for this. We are humans, and humans have libidoes. To deny that is, in my opinion, a worse state of affairs than objectification.

The important point is to put body worship into the proper perspective. A body is not a person — it is merely the vessel in which a person exists. Too many times, we are guilty of placing more value on physical appearance than it deserves.

5DMk3_9C3A0344-2For those who are the ‘beautiful people’, the emphasis on body can come at the cost of valuing and developing intellectually, and emotionally. Essentially, life is too easy. Getting that job at Hollister or A&F is not a problem. Need good grades in school? If you’re pretty, you’re much more likely to get them, whether you earned them or not.

But what happens when beauty fades? — which it always does eventually. Those same people who gravitated toward the handsome guy will just as quickly abandon him and find the next cute young thing. It’s a trap; And that’s why it’s so important to have perspective.

For those who actively seek the pretty people (frequently pretty people seeking other pretty people, or someone who has some other commodity to offer, like money), it’s important to take a step back and realize, you are just using someone if you only like him for how he looks.

Sometimes, people use each other, and that’s okay. A pretty young twink uses his sugar daddy and vice versa. But what happens when the twink loses his appeal. Does the daddy just toss him to the side? (On the other side, what does the twink do if the daddy goes broke?)

It’s okay to be with beautiful people, but it’s important to treat them like human beings who have feelings and need love, and not just some piece of meat to dote on till he’s gone bald, gotten wrinkles or put on some weight.

There was a time in my life, in my early 20’s, that I put too much import on my physical appeal. Perhaps because I had my self esteem crushed in high school by anti-gay bullies, once I escaped that prison and found my people, and started getting positive attention because of my looks, I was guilty of thinking it was all about appearance. A string of bad relationships taught me the truth. Looks don’t count for shit. Once I got over myself, and looked at guys from the inside out, instead of just looking at the outside only, I formed the first meaningful relationships in my life.

550D_IMG_0369webpAs you gaze at the beautiful male specimens on this page, please remember, each one has a brain, a heart, emotions; He cries when he hurts, laughs when he feels joy; He’s probably lost someone he loved a lot; He may have been called names as a child; He possibly had to come out to someone he really didn’t want to come out to; And if he’s lucky, he’ll grow old one day, and his looks will fade, and maybe somebody will love him anyway.

Evan d'Arturo

A gay nudist, residing in South Florida, and a contributing writer for theBigGayBlog.

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